Being Bold

I am working on being bold, which I define as speaking up, asking for what I need and holding clear boundaries. This is in conflict with my internal mediator, always working to keep the peace. This is the fundamental internal issue I have to work on right now.

I care too much about keeping the peace to say what needs to be said. When I do push myself to speak, I end up with a dark, painful pit in my stomach and lose focus. However, when I remember that I'm speaking on what I strongly believe and value I feel better.

I am trying to focus in on that: as long as I'm speaking on behalf of what is right and in accordance with my values, then I should keep on speaking.

How can I check in with that in the moment?